Self-Esteem And Couple

Self-esteem, seem difficult to believe, defines most of our experiences and choices that we are taking over our lives. One such election is concerned, precisely how we choose our partner. The value that we have is reflected in the pair have ...

Self-esteem has become a trite concept and it seems that everyone knows what he's talking, but I think it is important to return the meaning of the word.

Self-esteem is the feeling of worth to ourselves, regardless of our situations. Is closely related to the self personnel develop the skills and the feeling of certainty of being able to move forward and solve our life circumstances, with our resources.

But how is self-esteem?

Self-esteem develops from birth. Mainly in childhood and adolescence the structure is taking shape. It has to do with relationships with our parents, the environment in which we live and our personal characteristics.

That is, self-esteem has to do with how we see and what are the ways to love ourselves. The vast majority of humans have lived, for whatever reason, with lenses distorted or negative labels, sometimes it is difficult to erase. That is, the rest of us have come under its glass, and now we believe or think, that:

We are not worthy of love ... We're too ugly ... very intelligent ... full of flaws ... Too Soon berrinchudos or Awful ... nice to others ... Self-esteem is the feeling you have toward your own person, your tastes, your physique, your interests and Of course, your relationships ... It is also directly related to what you tell yourself about yourself ...

I'm always fool me ... Nothing goes well ... I have a poor opinion of myself ...

This internal dialogue in a serious determines the type of relationship you establish with a partner ... If you really think that you are not worthy of love and a good relationship ... you're right. If you think you deserve a good relationship ... also right ...

Your thoughts and beliefs towards you determine your feelings. When you think in a negative way towards you, surely you feel depressed, angry, full of pain and frustration. Those are the kind of partner you are going to choose, or in modern terms, you will attract to you ...

It is therefore very important to be honest with yourself and you really realize who you are, what you like about yourself, what you are good, what are your qualities. And beyond the focus on what you're not, better try to put attention on what you are, because only from there you can change your view of yourself and realize what you want and how you want to be treated in your relationship ...

It's not easy struggling with negative beliefs to oneself, it seems that are tattooed on our personality, it takes effort and personal commitment to get ahead with it ...

Moreover, think about what is the emotional climate in your partner, you build a relationship that takes you become a better person each day, or it is a relationship full of pain and aggression ...

If you are honest with yourself, you will understand what is the quality of your self-esteem.

Sometimes, we think that the couple will make us feel we are worth. Our partner, we are always going to feel worthy of love, the couple can only complement our needs. Nothing further from the truth. If I do not love and respect, first of all, nobody, absolutely nobody, not my partner, I will take that deal ...

Instead, the couple becomes a clear mirror that treats us the way in which our self-esteem are:

Yes I accept aggression and indifference, it means that my concept as a person is so that they attacked me ...

If my partner does not respect its commitments to me and also tolerate their indifference, means that demands respect my person, much less accept a deal with me dignidad.Sí control, means that I accept that I can make my own decisions ... And so on to infinity could go a long list ... The most important is that you detect yourself how you feel with your partner, yourself and your own person, as well as the treatment they are willing to tolerate your partner ...

If you think you trust yourself, your decisions, always wondering about your person and feelings, as well as you think you have to look for a partner to give you what you can not give yourself ... probably need help ...

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