6 Strategies to improve your relationship

Want to improve your relationship with your partner? It's simple. You just need to make constant deposits emotional bank account you have with your partner. What do I mean?

Stephen Covey in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, uses of the term metaphorically alluding emotional bank account to a bank account where we can make deposits and withdrawals, deposits identifying those gestures and behaviors that we gain the confidence and affection of the important people in our lives and remove all those behaviors as they do the opposite, ie that cause people to lose confidence, respect, affection and ease of communication with us.

When we have an emotional bank account with enough stores with our partner, communication is facilitated and the environment is tempered because there is an atmosphere of trust and respect. If not, we have to measure each of our words, watch what you say, go with politicking. And unfortunately, says Covey, and many couples are living, many families and many organizations.

Reservations can be increased through gestures of kindness, honesty and courtesy. This will allow when we retreat, that is, make a mistake or miss our partner, the relationship will also be affected if that person our reservations were at zero or even worse, red.

Stephen Covey suggests six major types of deposits to generate an emotional bank account.

1. Understand your partner.

It is most important. Involves knowledge of the tastes and preferences of your partner. Doing things for your partner that are important to him or her and not necessarily for you. If we do something to look good, for example, must be something that your partner likes, not something that only interests us. Covey says "what is important to the other person, should be as important to us as it is that person."

What for you might be a tank to the other could be a withdrawal. The case where parents want to do things they find interesting or fun for your teens but for these devious means an obligation, having to go along with the dad is a huge sacrifice for them, a huge retirement. Therefore, instead of the father look good and strengthen the relationship with the child, the worse or revokes, the best.

2. Pay attention to little things.

Definitely the little things are worth undervalued by most of us. The small details, as we have mentioned on other occasions, have a range important. Small acts of kindness, courtesy and attention represent huge deposits and small disrespectful or inconsiderate represent significant withdrawals. So be attentive / aa what you do and how you do, watch what you say and how you say it. And also cultivated the habit of doing little things for that special person for you.

3. Fulfill your commitments.

We all know the value of these promises and what it implies non-compliance. Our word loses value. When we make promises and to fulfill them easily we are making huge withdrawals that make recovery very difficult to trust. Hence the importance of learning not to make promises that we know or doubt beforehand to keep.

4. Clarify your expectations.

Nobody is able to guess or read the thoughts of others, who claims to be able to do it regularly magician or sorcerer word above his name (no desire to offend those who hold these offices, of course). So if the rest of us do not read nor guess thinking, why expect or take for granted that others know what we want or desire, what we like and do not like? Rinse time what we expect from others in every situation is going to save serious headaches.

5. Demonstrate personal integrity.

Honesty, being in one piece, not to speak ill of the absent are some of the features that Covey refers to this part. To do otherwise, speaking from behind a fellow trying to get along with another one will make us lose confidence in the second, for example.

6. Apologize sincerely.

When we make a mistake, an error or an unintentional offense is very important to know how to ask forgiveness or an apology in a timely manner. Not doing so leads to resentment and misunderstanding. It is important to make good, honest and sincere way the wrong done. This, though not erase our mistake, repair of the damage and prepare the ground for further composting, or as Covey would say, to keep the deposit in the emotional bank account.

In conclusion. How well do you know your partner? Do you know their tastes and preferences? Do you put attention to the little things? Or you find it easy to be inconsiderate / a, not listening or being rude / a? Do you make promises lightly? Do you manifest a clear and explicit what you expect of him / her in any situation (clarification of roles and functions)? Do you sample one piece? You know, apologize when you offend or make mistakes? And above all constantly You pay your emotional bank account?